Archive | September, 2014

Conversations with my son

19 Sep

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Walking around our neighborhood before reaching home, my son spotted a donation box. Those big blue or green boxes placed throughout the city that accepts donations of clothing and shoes. I see them so often that I didn’t realize we had one so close to our house. He says “look there goes one of those boxes,” and asked me if I remember them.

We had given away & donated so much stuff in our old neighborhood in the West Loop. That was a few years ago, so I was surprised that he remembered it so vividly. He then says “I can bring my old shoes, the Converse(s) that I can’t wear anymore to put in there.” That made me smile to myself. Just thinking how exposure and talking to children about doing good things can stay in their memories just as well as the lyrics to all of the violent and degrading rap music with catchy hooks that could make those of us who know better, sing-a-long to it.

This was a conversation that either bought up the question or that had stemmed from the topic of him asking me. “Who created God?” Which is a great question! I only hoped to provide just as good of an answer. Before having to read the book of Genesis in the Bible to him. By the end of our discussion, part 1 of it at least, he understood that God is the Beginning of everything. The First of all.

Conversations with my son make me feel there is hope. The bible says “Train a child in the way he SHOULD go.” When a child is not trained, it will take form of and like a sponge soak up everything that is around him, without having direction. When children are being exposed to all kinds of negativity & indecency, but have positive influence and is being pointed down the right path, it can have a greater impact and outweigh the negatives. But they have to be trained. Training involves a lot of repetition, patience and love.

It gives me hope knowing that I’m not fighting a losing battle. Having my son read the bible on his Ipad, opposed to playing games all the time. Listening to Smokie Norful’s gospel music on his radio in the background while he’s brushing his teeth and while bathing. Constantly talking about God. Which I realize it’s something that people get tired of. Coming up with new and interesting ways to help my son discover new knowledge is something I don’t mind. Despite the latest dance craze, trap song or rap battle. All that is popular in the youth’s culture today.

Talking to children is the best kind of education, if parents talk to them the right way and about the right things. I absolutely enjoy talking to my son. It’s communication, an exchange of information & education. Children are learning it’s true, but they are the most honest and intelligent people to engage with.

The best insight on parenting I can share in dealing with children, is to keep an open heart and mind. See your role as a parent, under God. Most importantly instead of seeing the person as a child, see the child as a person.

Children look up to parents as everything. Including, as teachers.



10 Sep

Preparation is an important season in your life. June 2014 022

By Veronica M. Benson
Writer/Freelance Journalist

> Preparation requires “being still.” Sometimes when you prefer not to.

> Preparation requires pursuing & seeking God. Getting direction from Him.

> Sometimes what you want to do is not the thing you will be doing when getting prepared.

> Preparation requires being well studied. In God’s Word & in your area of expertise. There is always more to learn.

> Be true to who you are when getting prepared. Focus your eyes on you. Not others.

> God is with you in your season of preparation. Although some of the things that you may experience, can make you feel as if He is not. The bible says He disciplines those that He loves.

> Preparation takes patience. You’re getting prepared, but you’re waiting on God to elevate you. To take you to heights that no man ever could. To heights where no man can ever bring you down from. Promotion is from God.

> In preparation there are many tests. You won’t fail them all; but you will not pass them all either. (God is gracious & merciful) He wants you to know that. Make sure you try to see the lesson in them all.

> Each time you are knocked around, because it might feel like that at the time, get to a place where you can remember your faith & hold on to it when you have nothing else to hold on to. (Like, finding a rock in the middle of a raging sea.)

> In your preparation season, you may experience some feelings of being alone. That’s probably because you are. No one will understand what you are going through.
Even if you live in a house full of people that you call & call you family. That say I love you all day.

> Getting ready for God’s promise takes preparation. In getting you prepared, you have to be “alone.” (What God has for you, is for YOU!) Not her, Not him, Not them. Jeremiah 12:1-5

> There is so much to learn in your season of preparation. Embrace it! Getting prepared is the most important thing that you can do, upon meeting your DESTINY!

> Keep a journal, a notebook or something to document the days of your journey. No matter how long it takes, each day of life is a gift & a blessing. Everyday counts when you know you’re going somewhere. Even while you be still.

> Encourage yourself. Make everything around you right now, work on your behalf. For inspiration & encouragement in your day to day life. From the music you choose, to the things you read on social media & those things you invest your time and money into. Let it be for your growth & self empowerment.

> I’ve heard before that “those who get prepared, get paid.”

> Get over loneliness. You’re going to the top! And you know how they say it’s lonely there. How will you deal with it then? YOU are enough. You have to be enough most of the times. When you look around and all you see is you, don’t be discouraged. Use that time & space to pour into yourself. With prayer, reading & everything that fills you with the right fuel for spiritual growth. I guarantee if you have other people around you, like children they will benefit from your spiritual development.

> I’ve heard & witnessed that God always sends someone. Even if He comes Himself. So that you’re never really alone.

> In your season of preparation, make sure that you are getting PREPARED!

Happy Birthday Caleb!

2 Sep



The climb


8 years ago Labor Day weekend I went into labor naturally & gave birth to my very own Angel & best friend. Today he celebrates his 8th birthday on Labor Day!

God is the greatest Creator of moments & memories in our lives. There is a Divine journey we are on and He has been blessing us & keeping us the whole way.

I thank God for our son,

Happy Birthday Baby!

God Bless YOU! ♥