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Happy 11th Birthday To My Son Caleb

1 Sep

Let’s see.

I only carried you inside of my body for 9 months. 

Made it through almost 19 hours of labor. 

Pushed you through my loins into the miracle of life in the world. 

I’m just your Mother.

Not a big deal. Maybe for strangers or those who oppose. Or maybe not even those who see us in the distance & don’t know who we are.

But I AM a big deal to the Creator of Heaven & Earth. So are my children. My son, my only one for now.

But then again, they don’t acknowledge Him, how much more would they ignore us. 

I’m just your Mother. The person that loves you the most. After God. 

He Loves Us. He loves you. He loves unity. He loves justice. All that is good that you deserve, He loves & has for YOU! He will give it to you! 


In Celebration of my baby’s 11th Birthday! 🎂🎈🎁🏃🏾💙👦🏾👏🏾

30 Aug

In a couple of days my son will be 11 years old! It’s so unbelievable & amazing all at once. My son is my only child, so every second, minute, hour, day, week, month, year counts!!! 

Upon his conception & at his arrival my life was instantly transformed. All for the better. And far GREATER beyond my imagination & expectation. 

I’ve been a single mother all 11 of these years & I’m so grateful that God has made our journey, thus far, full of purpose. 

And as its been said & we believe, “THE BEST IS YET TO COME”

#HeresToTurning11 #InTheLordJesusChrist




Happy Pentecost Sunday!!!

4 Jun

10 May


20 Feb

It feels so wonderful to be walking in the Truth & the Power of God everyday! 
God has blessed me & made known to me things I couldn’t have found out alone. Jeremiah 33:3
Anointing & covering me in His Word. Calling my son to Him at 3 years old, and while the devil wanted me to accept that that was for us to endure pain & suffering & living with broken hearts, God has revealed His FULL GLORY in our lives. That what He spoke & Promised to me when my son was born is what will be! No more dealing & settling & searching for any answers outside of God. Not a lawyer, doctor, a teacher or preacher. JESUS, Is The Only Way. (God is not a man that He should lie) -Numbers 23:19-20
We are so grateful! My words can’t express the GREATNESS of it all. 🙌🏽 #JustJESUS🤗😍
It’s been the longest journey of our lives. A 10-year journey. It began the day my son was born. What a blessing he was & I just knew everything would be perfect at his arrival. We’ve been searching for our promised land, our place of rest, all this time. We’ve now FOUND it in JESUS!!!! 
And it’s not just the Comfort, the Mercy, the Grace that God has provided us that we wouldn’t have made it without during this difficult journey, but NOW to the Miracles, Blessings, Abundance, Overflow, Healing, Restoration, Renewing, Promises & Elevation in God!!!!
Amen. Thank you Jesus!!!
The Lord gave the word; great was the company of those that published it. -Psalm 68:11
Isaiah 43:19

See I Am doing a NEW thing!!!!! Now it SPRINGS up; (While it’s Spring☀️)Do you not perceive it?
The last time I saw my son I got arrested for simply being present at His basketball game. And tomorrow, while our Season is here in every way & manner, having full authority & commandment over every thing that has set itself up & been set up against us… In JESUS name, for the Glory of God alone, as God is my only Witness & Jesus my only Representation, after 6 years of being thrown into & thrown around in a system without choice, both my son (King Caleb 👦🏾 and I) WE WILL BE WALKING AWAY TOGETHER, HAND IN HAND WITH THE VICTORY OF GOD!!!!!!!!!!
And it cannot be reversed!!!!! -Numbers 23:20🙏🏽👏🏾🙌🏽

“By His Stripes We Are Healed” 👸🏽👦🏾

Isaiah 53:5❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Jesus! 
You did it!!!!!😇😁

Baggage: Don’t Claim It!

20 Jan

By Veronica M. Benson

Baggage 3

Baggage 2

I think it’s disrespectful for someone to present themselves in such a way that’s appealing to another person and then get close to them just to reveal a life of unsettled baggage.

Men should not be complaining to a woman about their personal lives and problems because they seem like a nice person and are attracted to you.

I’m sure everyone has something to deal with in their lives but I don’t think a person should be measured by if they can tolerate or deal with your personal dilemmas & situations.

Women who are single, baggage free or not baggage burdened and are living successful, thriving lives are not magnets or B&B’s for good-looking men who need assistance in ending a bad relationship or moving on from an unstable living arrangement; or any other unsettled situation. (Your problems are your own.)

Women are not responsible to help you deal with those. At any point, but especially in a dating situation less than 1 year. You shouldn’t look for her to nor should she feel obligated to.

Men should be more responsible and careful in their selection and approaches, in life in general. I believe that men get warning signs when they are initiating something with the wrong woman. Usually when a game is presented in secret, it will end with a man’s downfall. It will fall apart for the one who pursues someone wrongfully or with the wrong intentions.

I think it’s interesting that men are willing to air their problems and baggage to women so easily. Which to me, in my own viewpoint is beyond me. Complaining about things a man should have control over. It seems as though because of the fact that we as women are caring and nurturing, men take that for granted and use it against us.

They will try to enter our lives and hearts through sympathy. It has become part of a man’s intention, to get a woman by running to her from another with complaints and baggage he created. Instead of working to get a woman’s anything. That would be a better investment in the long run.

I don’t know, because I’ve been unaware of the dating scene, where this idea of burdening women with men’s problems comes from at all. Especially so early on in any situation. These observations have been somewhat humorous on an ironic level but at the same time perplexing. To me it’s simple. Keep your problems and issues to yourself if you’re trying to deal with other people.

Dating is supposed to be fun. The beginning stages of getting to know someone. To learn if your feelings match your attraction to them.

It’s not supposed to be men burdening women with their unfulfilled dreams, desires & wants. It’s not supposed to be men moving into women’s houses, apartments, etc to get their start. Or to have somewhere they can go.

God gave Adam everything before He gave him a woman. Eve. I believe this was done for a specific reason. To show men there are requirements that should be met before even thinking about having a wife. To make visible to women that we were not made to work for a man but that a man should work always and constantly to maintain a rich, fulfilling life for himself and his woman. I believe this is the way things should be. And every woman should. It’s hard to settle when you really believe what you believe. That’s why “No” has been the answer for every proposal I’ve received from past relationships. Some women cling to a man’s word and I like words…. but if the work ethic, the dreamer and every other important element aren’t all collaborating to produce some successful action to match the words, then to me you’re trying to convince me of something you don’t even believe in. You have to want to work and work hard.

In another perspective, maybe God should have had Adam work for everything that was given freely to him with only the responsibility to take care of it. So that he wouldn’t have let anything or anyone jeopardize it for him. Which was in turn the curse he received for disobedience.

In our present society, it’s as if the tables have turned completely. As independent as I am, I never confuse what the world says with what God says. As a single woman I can be as independent as I want to be. But if any man wants to make me his wife, he will have already laid the foundation for having me as his wife. Not asking me to go to city hall for our marriage because it saves money. And this was the deal offered to me with a previous so called proposal. I couldn’t believe it. I know we have our different views on these types of things, but marriage is meant to be special. When you get the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, I believe it should be a special occasion in representation of the great God who put two people together.

Men were designed to carry burdens without needing a woman to do it for them or with them.
If you as a woman, think it is the way to take care of a man laying up under you, in your house, then that’s the life you will have.
Women were not made to take care of men, that’s not the way God intended it to be.
Your life will form or conform according to what you believe.

The comfort that men think they will get from laying under a woman should be deposited into their belief, faith and trust in God’s word. Which provides a peace that they may not find living in a woman’s house.

I’ve seen and have experienced some unusual circumstances because of the ways men think. I’ve seen a man who one woman had him by his house and another had him by the hand. How was this possible? Men don’t have the right things in mind first. Because they don’t have the right things in their minds first it comes out in their lives exactly how it is in their minds and hearts. Scattered, chaotic, disastrous and drama-filled. Some men don’t accept that they are the creators for the drama they are experiencing in their own lives.

Baggage. If you don’t want baggage, don’t be baggage to someone. We all go through some things that may have people and things lingering or hanging on to us in ways that they shouldn’t be. Which causes unnecessary drama and strife. Like dead weight usually does, it won’t be able to hold on to you or hold you down forever, it will fall off. If you have it, it’s yours to deal with and carry or not carry until you are freed from it.

* Some women want those Louis Vuitton bags to carry, who are already walking around with baggage that comes at a much higher price than Louis Vuitton ever can. It’s your life! You don’t have to carry that baggage, put it down. Let it go. Make room for your blessings. Put the baggage down, so you can carry your Louis Vuitton bags 🙂 *


Baggage 1

Mr. Fine

28 Apr

One day this past summer during my quest for the city I remember being on 79th around Western, the time buses don’t run often, to take us (me and my son) on further from that point. Getting off from the bus terminal and walking towards the 80’s. I recall reaching 84th/85th the wooded area around the Forest Preserve and I was walking the pathway/sidewalk to reach 87th, still not a bus in sight. Here I am doing all of this walking in sandals, in the summer trying to be cute and a conqueror all in one.

Out of nowhere it seemed, it was almost as if he appeared before me like an angel out of the forest, came this 6 foot maybe 9 something ray of sunshine. He was walking away from the direction I was going and I away from where he was headed. It was as if the sun moved with him. I wasn’t going to let that stop me from looking directly at him. He was a sight to see. I was tired from walking so I put those slower steps to good use. He wore a construction vest and work boots so I knew that he was a builder, a maker of something.

His skin was butterscotch toned, slightly kissed by the sun. Dark hair, Caesar cut.. that’s about as much info as one can gather crossing paths with someone.

I love dark skinned brothers because of their immediate appearance of armor. This man demanded that my attention for detail senses to be fully activated.

As we came close in our moment of passing he smiled and said hello. And so did I. After he passed I said thank you to God and turned to make sure he was really there and not a figment of my imagination. In a steady pace he walked on about the rest of his life. There wasn’t enough time to check for a ring. But I knew it couldn’t be, for imagination purposes. I wasn’t entertaining anyone. That was as far as it went for me. As fine as he was,  he was but a glimpse of what God has for me. No pun intended.

If he was a juice, he would be called “Very Fine.”

If I was writing in my diary at the time I would have said

“Dear diary, THIS man is fine.”

In other words, he was fine. I never really label anyone as fine, because fine to me is an overall trait. It is something that is equaled to, in conclusion of. One+Two= fine. Fine is not usually attributed to the physical only.

style+swagger+class+build+spiritual+intelligence= fine.

Part of me wondered if he was “one of them” working from the other side. But if so, then the devil meant it for bad, but it was alright.  🙂

As I am nearing the 3 year mark of CS (complete singleness)I know completely and truly that I can only say that this happened from the pure goodness and Grace of God. It also lets me know that God does special things in 3’s. There is something about the power of 3. The Father, Son & Holy Spirit.  In Ecclesiastes 4 it talks about how one can’t do anything alone. It takes at least two. That’s good news for me, because I woke up one night with a question on my heart to God, a couple of months back. Asking God, “what is this about?” He responded immediately, “They think you’re alone…” and I went right back to sleep. Sometimes God be too deep in the late hours.  Because alone is what I felt. I was alone in my feelings, the challenges, the things I was going through. There were days when I didn’t even know how I was moving around. To me, I stayed in the bed on several days. Days when I would cry, somehow I was smiling and laughing.  The bible says “Though one may be overpowered, Two can defend themselves, A cord of Three strands is not quickly broken.” Single people can really do something with that. Imagine others “thinking you’re alone” when they see you go down and then when you start to rise, they see you are not alone.  That you were not walking alone, although it appeared that you were alone. In the bible one of my favorite quotes is when God says “I MYSELF, WILL HELP YOU.” That is what I believe.

We can be lead to think other people are our Saviors. Maybe they have money, maybe they have power to hire. But promotion is from God. I wait for that. Where God places you, positions you he’ll bless. And Blessed be those who will be blessed, when you are blessed.

For the single ladies and single mothers, I heard somebody say, that “Jesus is not your boyfriend ladies,” I can tell you now that I am so convinced that he wants to be. He also wants to be your baby(ies) daddy.  He’ll feed and clothe and yes HE WILL DISCIPLINE them too. (I’ll share a story later.) The thing I love about God is that he cares about the little things. Because once He knows He is your biggest desire, little things will be just that. So he takes away those things you hold dear, then pours out his love to you. Then you’ll start to get those things back and they won’t mean much compared to His love, mercy, grace, protection, favor, blessings. It seems so simple. But it’s more to just saying the good things of God, to repeat what you heard in church or your favorite gospel song sings. It’s about knowing for yourself. Knowing what all of that feels like.

In my life it seems like every little milestone that comes, it’s always the moment somebody gives up on you, is when a blessing comes through. People will play like they are on your team, then the next moment they throw their hands up. God comes with victory. People want you ready in the length of their patience. When they think you should be ready. Or they’ll be through. In Isaiah 40:11 It says “he tends his flock like a Shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he GENTLY leads those that have young. That is why I want to be with God. He loves you when you are wrong until you get it right. He knows the heart, when you desire to be better. To learn right from wrong without having to be tore down the way people think they would have a right too. And even when you’re still learning.  He Protected me from EVERYTHING. Our Society is not like that. The prison numbers indicate that so. There are people locked up from doing nothing.  With the law of the world. I am glad to know there is another law. That no one walking around, no matter their position, training or degree is higher than.

(The song I would link to this post is : Kem “Matter of Time”)