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Me & My Boyfriend πŸ‘„

12 Sep

After so much of my time has been with me being single, I’ve finally reached the point to where I can admit that I want a boyfriend. Yes, I said, I WANT A BOYFRIEND.😊 

Out loud this is my proclamation. My decree. My confession. It’s so much of a big deal (maybe just to me☺️) because I’ve been single for so long, for one. I always speak about how much I enjoy my single life & how I could be single forever. For two. Being who I am, I like not needing and wanting so much unless I know for sure that I can obtain it and fulfill that desire. It’s always been so rewarding to me being strong & MISS INDEPENDENT, specifically described in the words of NeYo. I love to go about my life, as my own woman, taking care of business, being fly and all the while being single. Providing all of me and my sons wants & needs. Contrary to popular belief. And when people are speculating about you and your life, it should confirm to you that you are on the right track. Just watch & wonder, I say. But stay in your lane. 

Some time ago, back in the earlier Destiny’s Child days, there was a magazine or television interview that I remember Beyonce’saying how she wanted a boyfriend. And shortly after, she was with Jay-Z. They were dating & collaborating, and today they are married making money, mini-moguls and Lemonade.πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹πŸ‹ 

As much as I enjoy my space & time, if I can say that I don’t mind sharing it with someone other than my son, then it must be true.

I juggle in my mind if I want a boyfriend or if I just like the idea of having one because of all the cute celeb couples, the couple that catches my eye walking hand-in-hand down the street……(and that would pretty much be it, there aren’t many couples I know, know about, hear about or see that I can say I have their #RelationshipGoalsβœ”οΈβœ”οΈβœ”οΈβœ”οΈ in mind for myself. 

Then again, it might simply be my own ideas that I have in my mind. It has been over 7 years since I’ve been in a relationship. 

So, I would say it’s OK for me to have a boyfriend now. It’s a good time for me to be in a relationship again!!! I think. My heart is free, no lingering heartbreak from a previous relationship and no BAGGAGE, carried from any either. Most of all, I’ve spent a lot of time focusing on myself, spiritually, physically, mentally & professionally. Which are key points when you want to share some aspects of your life with someone else. One must know how to stay in their own lane. Check yourself! 

As far as my ideas of my boyfriend, I could probably pen a book series from those. Well, when you’ve not been involved with someone for a significant amount of time, your imagination fulfills your ideas & beliefs until the magic happens and make it all come true. πŸ’«

A boyfriend to me is much of a friend, a close friend. The closest male friend to you! He is both your man and your friend. Someone that treats you like there is no one else in the world that matters. Like you are so special & beautiful to him. He holds your hand, looks at only you and shows you off to his whole world because he’s proud of you. You’ll catch him staring at you often and at the most random of times, because he admires & adores you that much. You’re a dream come true to him. As he may be to you. Either way, he’s staying around until he makes you feel that he is. 

You all date often. Texts, FaceTime, Skype, Social Media posts & rants (good ones) are automatic. You explore a lot of new places & fun activities together. He calls everyday and comes to see you surprisingly. He also learns you well enough to know when to give you some space. Some time alone shopping, hanging with friends, traveling and enjoying life without him too. Your happiness is his happiness, no matter what it is. 

He attends all of your family events with you and looks forward to meeting your son because he plans on being your husband. He cooks for you, or learns to if he can’t. He loves to send you flowers & gifts everyday, even though he knows you never expect it. 

Although he buys extravagant gifts and tries to lavish you with a luxurious lifestyle, he knows that you are not a material girl and those things will never guarantee him your heart, no matter how excessive in quantity it may be. The greatest gift that he can ever have you give to him is your heart. Your love. That he will spend his life letting you know how valuable that is to him above everything he has. 

On a regular day, my boyfriend comes to see me and we spend the day together, relaxing or walking on the beach, no matter the season. Or watching movies at home, eating and laughing. Pillow fights and pillow-talk. 

Overall, my boyfriend is faithful to me. He’s loyal, attentive and loves & accepts all that I am. My strength does not intimidate him and I can be weak with him, without him trying to take advantage of me. He loves all of my struggles & complications that comes with the woman I’m growing to be. No other woman phases him. He’s strong in God and physically. He’s trustworthy & trusting of me.

These are some of the elements I believe my boyfriend should possess. 

But that’s just me. 

Realistic? Or Wishful thinking? 

I’ll have to answer that for myself, I believe it’s realistic! πŸ˜πŸ€”



Never Say Never πŸ’«βœ”️

25 May

Surveying over my life and the young 33 years that I’ve been blessed to see, there are still some things that I have never experienced. And I’m sure this list barely names it all. 

You don’t have to do everything to begin with. Being it a trend or not. But you certainly don’t have to do everything all at once! It’s fun knowing there are some things left to explore and experience. 

Some of my NEVERS
Never had a shot (drink)

Never smoked anything 
Never been drunk 🍷🍹🍾 πŸ˜‹
Never had a professional massage

Never traveled outside of the U.S. 
Never had a tattoo
Never rode a mechanical bull 
Never been on a hot air balloon ride
Never traveled first class on an airplane
Never new true love and what love really meant until I had my son
(So I learned that I’ve…..) Never been in love with a man πŸ‘„πŸ™‚
Never been in a mature adult relationship (I broke up with guys every week or several times during a week). πŸ˜‚
Never paid over $100 for any pair of my shoes or purses. (Designer & all). πŸ› I’m the best bargain shopper.  (Although I had a $500 MAC cosmetics splurge before. πŸ’„πŸ’…πŸΎπŸ’‹πŸ€‘
Never driven a stick shift
Never skydived or bungee jumped before
Never been completely open & exposed myself fully to a guy. 

Never kissed a girl before 

Never been a follower, always a leader. 

Never been the most popular or most liked female😏
But you know how the saying goes “Never Say Never” 
And, ‘Never Say Never’ is one of my favorite songs by Brandy


Spoken Words βœ’οΈβ€οΈ

11 Dec


A masterpiece in the making! There’s so much truth to this. There are tears falling in this picture, along with the sparkling & glitz. To smile even though you cry. #SuchAHeavyBurdenPlacedUponMe😌 #ImStillHereπŸ˜‡πŸ™ŒπŸ½ Β #IfGodIsForMeπŸ’ͺ🏽


A good woman deserves a man who would give her the world! If you don’t think she deserves it and you are unwilling to give it to her, it is your responsibility to get away from her, so that the man that will bring the world to her feet can. #Church

I always had a twinkling in my eye, just like the stars! 🌟



5 Oct

Love is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever known

The perfect song to hear

The perfect poem to read

A beautiful sky with a rare sunset

My heartbeat & knowing how I feel complete

With the perfection of peace

Love is its own being

It cannot be defined

It’s the best thing I’ve ever known

I wish I could write my love’s song

Put the verses to it’s poem

When I feel it, I know it, love is my healing.

In it’s presence, in silence,

While it’s quiet, I know love is not a feeling

I found love on my own

The greatest thing I’ve ever known

I thirst for it, I hunger

Love lives in my heart, I never have to wonder

Right here, my hearts own life is love, I’ll never have to wander

I live on love or nothing at all